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What The Hell Do Butch And Femme Even Mean Anymore?
Roundtable members Dr. Van Bailey, Gabby Rivera, Ari Fitz, and Thomas Page McBee. Lauren Heffron for BuzzFeed We’re living in a time of gender panic.Arguably, we always have been — that panic is just...
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11 Transgender Parents Share Their Struggles And Joys
Forget power tools and whiskey stones — all these transgender parents want for Father’s Day this year is to be with the ones they love. Some, who transitioned prior to becoming a parent, had to...
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Dating Makes Me Sick
Illustration by Greg Kletsel for BuzzFeed The first time I threw up on a date, I had just eaten a big bowl of chili. It was a mistake I will never make again, though I’m not sure that matters now.I...
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This Is What Online Dating In Your Thirties Really Feels Like
Sian Butcher / BuzzFeed How many times have you deleted Tinder, pulling yourself out of its swiping vortex? Or deactivated your OkCupid account after receiving one too many requests to see your “sweet...
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How My Father Raised Me Through Silence
“Saan ka na?”“Pauwi na.”And that’s it. If you looked at my text history with my old man, 90% of it would consist of this and its variations. He’d ask where I am; I’d answer truthfully. He wouldn’t...
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I Don't Know If I Can Ever Forgive My Dad For Keeping My Sister Secret
Jenny Chang/BuzzFeed Toward the end of their decades-long marriage, my hurt, angry mother was looking for some way — any way — to break the bond I had with my father."You realize she's going to get...
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13 Ways My Relationship With My Dad Changed When I Had Kids
How did you do it, exactly, Dad? I’m struggling here. Tom Chivers / BuzzFeed I'm older now than my dad was in my earliest memories. I was 33 when my son was born. My dad was 28 when I was born; I can...
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Becoming A Gay Dad Is Much Harder Than I Thought
Illustration by Jing Wei for BuzzFeed Last year, my husband, Brian, and I went to an informational seminar at a respected adoption agency in Los Angeles. We’d gotten the name of the agency through...
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Are You An Alcoholic?
After years of living in denial, I finally confronted my alcoholism when I was 35. These are the tough questions I had to ask myself. Jenny Chang/BuzzFeed My twentysomething social life was one long...
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Why We’re Finally Taking Down Confederate Flags
Our understanding of the Confederate flag has changed because our understanding of the Civil War and its aftermath has changed. The “Lost Cause” is finally losing. Joe Raedle / Via Getty Images The...
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How I'm Learning I Don't Always Have To Be In Control
Illustration by James O'Brien for BuzzFeed I like being in control.On Saturday mornings, I sometimes invite friends over for breakfast. I spend my Friday nights madly cleaning my apartment, making...
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The Mark Wahlberg Playbook Is The Oldest One In Hollywood
In Mark Wahlberg’s 20,000-square-foot mansion in the exclusive, gated Beverly Park neighborhood of Beverly Hills, he’s hung portraits of four different stars of the old school: James Caan, John...
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I Got In Touch With People Who Abused Me Online To Ask Why
After writing a light-hearted post about how I didn’t get The Simpsons, I received death and rape threats. Tracking down the people who abused me turned out to be unexpectedly emotional. Eighteen...
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7 Essays To Read This Week: Gay America, Black Church, And God
This week, Nyasha Junior recalled a childhood spent inside an AME church. Read that and other essays from the New York Times, Slate, The New Republic, and more. "Future Queer: Where Is Gay America...
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Did I Give My Son ADD?
Illustration by Chris Silas Neal for BuzzFeed The transition from elementary school to the larger public middle school comes with a silver lining. The bigger population means more kids to get to know....
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“Fun Home” Is Bringing Butch Lesbians Into The Mainstream
Joan Marcus I read Alison Bechdel’s graphic memoir Fun Home for the first time after my girlfriend gave it to me.Here, you’ll love this. I know you will.But my discovery could just as easily have been...
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Why Aren't We Seeing Black Lives On The Big Screen?
The absence of black life on our cinema screens is glaring. Is targeted programming and careful marketing the best way to serve black British audiences? Gugu Mbatha-Raw and Nate Parker in Beyond the...
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This Is What It's Like To Recover From An Eating Disorder During Ramadan
For those recovering from eating disorders, the Islamic holy month can be a difficult period. Sian Butcher / BuzzFeed Sofia always used to look forward to Ramadan. It wasn't the religious rituals or...
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Are You An Alcoholic?
After years of living in denial, I finally confronted my alcoholism when I was 35. These are the tough questions I had to ask myself. Jenny Chang/BuzzFeed My twentysomething social life was one long...
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The Revolting Truth Of Dating Anxiety
Illustration by Greg Kletsel for BuzzFeed The first time I threw up on a date, I had just eaten a big bowl of chili. It was a mistake I will never make again, though I’m not sure that matters now.I...
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